girlfriend problems

[Shadow Hunter]

ok, Im in a little jam here. so I have this girlfriend and she's been my girl since about a year ago.. shes my friend and stuff but she said shes moving to organ soon.. Id hate to see her go. I dont want to dump her and stuff but i gotta move on too. any advice?:crybaby:

[The AIDS Virus]

Oregon?...

Talk to her about it, ASAP. My girl just moved to Colorado couple of weeks ago. Spend as much time as you have left with her, together, if she'll let you. I don't suggest trying long distance, but if you really like her go for it.

[EricH]

Space blows. The relationship itself won't last. Don't cheat, but let it kill itself. Make sure she is always honest with you, even if she wants to end it or has something bad to say.

[Shadow Hunter]

yeah. I sent a letter to her It is like an invitatoin to come swimming. I just feel crappy about it.. you know, all the days I spent with her and now all that's blown off. she wont remember me when shes married ya know? it just sucks.

[imagination]

man distance sucks... i know i cant do it. is she going for college or with family or what? i say pretty much what everyone else has said. spend as much time with her before she leaves talk with her about it and mutually split when she moves.

[plusminus]

She might. End the relationship on a good note and she might value the memory for a long time to come.

How old are you guys anyhow? Where do you live, or more to the point, how far away is she going to be?

[Shadow Hunter]

ok....please dont laugh..Im only eleven years old. I live near sacremento in california. man this stuff over here happens so quick. and we really ment it. seriously dont laugh.. its that yong love thing. she really liked me and i even invited her over to spend the nite once. i know im really yong but i like, loved her

[RAGING INFERNO]

*sigh* you kids these days lol I guess sometimes it doesnt really matter what age and stuff... if you like a girl you like a girl.. uh.. but dont like..try to do anything...;) it does suck. kinda like not seeing your best frind again. it sucks but yeah. you gotta move on..so go buy a hamster or something..:)

[plusminus]

I'm not going to laugh, I think you're fortunate to find someone you can genuinely care about at such a young age. Having said that, continuing the relationship over that distance will be basically impossible for you guys. No matter how good your intentions are, it'll almost surely just become drawn out and unmaintainable.

You're also young enough that both of you will have a lot more to experience in life, and will meet many new people. So, as bad as it may seem right now, it's likely for the best that you end the relationship when she moves away. However, don't end your friendship with her; moving is hard when you're young and I'm sure she'll appreciate staying in contact with you.

Only my advice, of course.

[Coffin Fedder]

*sigh* you kids these days lol I guess sometimes it doesnt really matter what age and stuff... if you like a girl you like a girl.. uh.. but dont like..try to do anything...;) it does suck. kinda like not seeing your best frind again. it sucks but yeah. you gotta move on..so go buy a hamster or something..:)

People don't get the concept of love anymore now adays. I mean sure a couple of people do and it depends on how you feel about this person and makes what makes you feel to have a passion or "crush" on that person. I mean sure, I'm only 14! But, I get a lot of things most people will never learn. All honesty kid, all I can say is be confident of yourself and you'll edventually find someone else. Girls love guys that are confident of themselves, thats how I am and I've gotten a long ways with it. So believe in yourself and pff biggest pimp and California! :rolleyes:
Yes, I actually understand girls gotta problem;)

[RAGING INFERNO]

People don't get the concept of love anymore now adays. I mean sure a couple of people do and it depends on how you feel about this person and makes what makes you feel to have a passion or "crush" on that person. I mean sure, I'm only 14! But, I get a lot of things most people will never learn. All honesty kid, all I can say is be confident of yourself and you'll edventually find someone else. Girls love guys that are confident of themselves, thats how I am and I've gotten a long ways with it. So believe in yourself and pff biggest pimp and California! :rolleyes:
Yes, I actually understand girls gotta problem;)
lol true:)

[!Diamond!]

Well it sucks that she's going away, but like you said you're only eleven. Wait till you hit the teen love years man and then you'll just forget about this girl, as hard as it sounds now.Teen love can really do a number on yas (speaking from exp;)). Trust, you'll find another girl. I'm not doubting you like/love her but once you meet teen love you'll understand the concept of love :wub:

[Shadow Hunter]

thanks for the advice but we do like /love eachother ;) :wub:

[EricH]

A longstanding period of years has precedented from my youth in which I held stedfast to resolve that I confided many beliefs as authentic that were truly manifestations of a subconscious pretension of maturity. While you may hold the notion of love, videlicet any approach you take to characterize such, in precious regard at your age of eleven unavoidable casualty will eventually hinder your youth from dominating sentience as you qualify what that's reality. While I do not deny that you may have initiated love, as a manifestation of maturity, I do beyond question doubt that you can qualify such love to mortal understanding in which the love is allowed to manifest it self in such a way that it should be allowed. It is necessary for you to appreciate and alleviate the perplexing fact that love starts and love ends, in which you've defined love for yourself. What you may do is find relief from this great time of despair in that love starts.

[Shadow Hunter]

thanks for the advice.i needed it.=]

[uniquinous]

While I do not deny that you may have initiated love, as a manifestation of maturity, I do beyond question doubt that you can qualify such love to mortal understanding in which the love is allowed to manifest it self in such a way that it should be allowed.
And in what ways ought it be allowed? :dry: You're a dick for writing in that style to an 11 year old.

OK, shadow - this is one of those times when all the older kids won't really be able to empathize much with you. "Love" at age 11 is MUCH different then "love" at age 17, or 20. Erich there did correctly speak of maturity (while showing his arrogant immaturity), but in your case it's a matter of a really close childhood friend. The benefit is that she will in fact remember you years from now, even when she's married, as you say.

Unfortunately though, the relationship is based off no more then the convenience of how close you two live by each other, and cooperative parents.

The relationship will die, as you have already known, and it's perfectly fine to grieve for that loss. If you were older I would recomend you try to keep the relationship alive in the normal long-distance relationship thing. However, due to your age I recommend you simply end it when she leaves and stay in close touch with each other. You will find that it actually won't be too different then if you both tried to just stay together with the distance there, but with the exception that neither one of you is hindered from opening yourselves to the possibility of new puppy love. :)

Sorry to hear about your loss.

[~~CaTaNa~~]

And in what ways ought it be allowed? :dry: You're a dick for writing in that style to an 11 year old.

OK, shadow - this is one of those times when all the older kids won't really be able to empathize much with you. "Love" at age 11 is MUCH different then "love" at age 17, or 20. Erich there did correctly speak of maturity (while showing his arrogant immaturity), but in your case it's a matter of a really close childhood friend. The benefit is that she will in fact remember you years from now, even when she's married, as you say.

Unfortunately though, the relationship is based off no more then the convenience of how close you two live by each other, and cooperative parents.

The relationship will die, as you have already known, and it's perfectly fine to grieve for that loss. If you were older I would recomend you try to keep the relationship alive in the normal long-distance relationship thing. However, due to your age I recommend you simply end it when she leaves and stay in close touch with each other. You will find that it actually won't be too different then if you both tried to just stay together with the distance there, but with the exception that neither one of you is hindered from opening yourselves to the possibility of new puppy love. :)

Sorry to hear about your loss.

word but..

why do woman always complicate things...its like in their DNA to either over explain things (uni) or just totally mess things up by doing something (your girlfriend moving away)

[uniquinous]

OR, this *11 year olds'* parents are moving away, and this girl had absolutely nothing to do with totally messing up *anything* :rolleyes:

let's assume her father got a new job out there - then it's a man's fault. never thought of that one, huh? :p

[EricH]

And in what ways ought it be allowed? :dry: You're a dick for writing in that style to an 11 year old.
Shadow suffered thy dialect inasmuch as it required for the point, which was prominent in which hitherto and forevermore is the terminal sentence belonging to my paragraph. "What you may do is find relief from this great time of despair in that love starts." In my life, this fanciful illusion has always set free.

Edit1: To the notion of love, and whereso it will manifest, is unbound. My own action has verified atleast in my mind that eleven is too young.

Edit2: While that boundry is scratched in my mind, I'm certain hence in time and space exist an eleven year old whom you may find in higher regard in maturity than even you distinguish yourself.

[~~CaTaNa~~]

OR, this *11 year olds'* parents are moving away, and this girl had absolutely nothing to do with totally messing up *anything* :rolleyes:

let's assume her father got a new job out there - then it's a man's fault. never thought of that one, huh? :p

i told you..woman always complicate things by usin extreme vurbage (dont know if thats how you spell it XD)

its his girlfriend moving away so there for its her fault that it is going to end :P

[Cuathon]

oooh, burn!

[uniquinous]

"What you may do is find relief from this great time of despair in that love starts."
Love starting says nothing to what ways it ought to be allowed. Conditional necessities that everyone knows about mean nothing to the act itself. So again I will ask: In what ways do you feel love ought to be allowed?

Edit1: To the notion of love, and whereso it will manifest, is unbound. My own action has verified atleast in my mind that eleven is too young.I agree with that last sentence. Otherwise you're stroking nothing but your own ego with this sentence structure, utterly missing the point of communication (and i doubt your ego is the only thing you're stroking).

[~~CaTaNa~~]

now thats a burn....

uni try not to use so many complicated words :/ hes only 11 and im 16 and i cant understand what your saying never mind him :)

[EricH]

Love starting says nothing to what ways it ought to be allowed. Conditional necessities that everyone knows about mean nothing to the act itself. So again I will ask: In what ways do you feel love ought to be allowed?
I heretofore edited my post twice.

I am myself in my opinion. Don't take it for generalization.

While that boundry is scratched in my mind, I'm certain hence in time and space exist an eleven year old whom you may find in higher regard in maturity than even you distinguish yourself.

[uniquinous]

Now you are just avoiding the question, and again exhibit your immaturity by completely missing the point of communication. "Big words" are meant to have specific connotations which are otherwise uncaptured by "small words" in concise little packets to pass on meaning. You provide larger words with less meaning to those who understand them. Now, I realize it is just your opinion on the matter, but you made a statement which you haven't actually gone on to back or explain in any manner.

In what ways do you feel love ought to be allowed? You referred to the ways, but you didn't elaborate as to what they were. Despite your opinion which I don't take as a generalization, you should probably use your big words to figure out a way to make a point.

[EricH]

Now you are just avoiding the question, and again exhibit your immaturity by completely missing the point of communication. "Big words" are meant to have specific connotations which are otherwise uncaptured by "small words" in concise little packets to pass on meaning. You provide larger words with less meaning to those who understand them. Now, I realize it is just your opinion on the matter, but you made a statement which you haven't actually gone on to back or explain in any manner.

In what ways do you feel love ought to be allowed? You referred to the ways, but you didn't elaborate as to what they were. Despite your opinion which I don't take as a generalization, you should probably use your big words to figure out a way to make a point.
I'm sorry if my big words scare you.

My object to explain is straightforward. Age broadly gauges maturity. While literally it is only broad, in my experience and opinion eleven is too youthful. As you agree with maturity is a component. I've never seen such maturity exist in an eleven year old to such degree. That is simply what I am saying. Now where love need reside, as I said, anywhere, anytime, anyplace. The limits I am expressing are simply observations and not definite.

[~~CaTaNa~~]

ok 2 words i did not understand in that post

1.connotations
2.generalization

[Jeffery]

ok, Im in a little jam here. so I have this girlfriend and she's been my girl since about a year ago.. shes my friend and stuff but she said shes moving to organ soon.. Id hate to see her go. I dont want to dump her and stuff but i gotta move on too. any advice?:crybaby:
If you kill yourself she might be sad enough to not move.

[Cuathon]

dude, and in comes jeff with the perfect answer!

go jeff!

[uniquinous]

I'm sorry if my big words scare you.

My object to explain is straightforward. Age broadly gauges maturity. While literally it is only broad, in my experience and opinion eleven is too youthful. As you agree with maturity is a component. I've never seen such maturity exist in an eleven year old to such degree. That is simply what I am saying. Now where love need reside, as I said, anywhere, anytime, anyplace. The limits I am expressing are simply observations and not definite.
lol - no big words don't scare me. I understand the meaning of the words you are using, though you haven't quite demonstrated that profeiciency. You made a point, in your use of big words, which was crap. I called you on it. That's what this boils down to. That's what Jeffery, or Cuathon, or me, or anyone else who calls you on your crap ALWAYS boils down to. Perhaps you were of the belief that you could hide behind your wording, but you fail at that as well.

[EricH]

lol - no big words don't scare me. I understand the meaning of the words you are using, though you haven't quite demonstrated that profeiciency. You made a point, in your use of big words, which was crap. I called you on it. That's what this boils down to. That's what Jeffery, or Cuathon, or me, or anyone else who calls you on your crap ALWAYS boils down to. Perhaps you were of the belief that you could hide behind your wording, but you fail at that as well.
My point is still bound, it is nothing more than an opinion based on inference. That is why I can accept it may not be absolute.

[~~CaTaNa~~]

guys guys GUYs (n gals) weve gone off topic lol

this guy has got a crisis yet you two are arguing over who can understand what words.

we're trying to help this guy, not make him run

[uniquinous]

agreed, catana, which is why i'm trying to settle speech so that any decent advice Erich may have can be communicated.

My point is still bound, it is nothing more than an opinion based on inference.Yes but, you haven't made a point. Or rather, the point regarding his age was well placed, but the other point you keep avoiding regarding my question isn't a point at all. It's an allusion to a point which you can't back, haven't made, and won't elaborate upon.

[ChainHeart]

heh ... why do people ask for personal advices on the internet :dry:

these are kind of problem you should solve on your own, or someone you trust (e.g. parents, friends ) not people on the TAO gaming forum.

[~~CaTaNa~~]

just something to talk about i guess

or in erich and unis case to talk about who understands what words O_o

[RAGING INFERNO]

well, I guess if he was being serious regardless of his age he could be less than a boy friend but much much more than a normal friend

[ChainHeart]

i think this is just an excuse to start an arguement :rolleyes:

or for uniq to show off her unmatched intelligence >_< with her "big words" and all =P

personal advices are pointless, unless we know the guy/girl personally. We cant just make assumptions and give out pointless advices based on a inaccurate and bias POV.

Doubt that he'd take it seriously anyway :p, relationship problems aint that easy to solve buddy, go figure out the solution on your own.

:D

[~~CaTaNa~~]

chm now your using complicated words :/ lol

sorry i like to keep things simple..that way im happy :)

[ChainHeart]

hahah...

what are considered "big words" anyway :huh:

im such a nub >.<

[Elentari]

personal advices are pointless, unless we know the guy/girl personally. We cant just make assumptions and give out pointless advices based on a inaccurate and bias POV.


I think you're wrong about that. This type of situation isn't all that uncommon, and while the advice a person can give might not be completely accurate, it can at least give him an idea of what to do.

EDIT: Catana, I suggest you go get a dictionary :p.

[~~CaTaNa~~]

i dont like dictionaries it takes AGES to find a word n then by the time youve found it the conversation has moved on...pointless

[Cuathon]

heres what you can get from erich's posts if you dont know what the words mean without consulting a reference.

fblevntgIUEWGTRHIObnyioathoiantjioIBHMOI

[~~CaTaNa~~]

thats exactly what i thought O_o

[Cuathon]

yeah and it still doesnt make much sense unless you ignore the words that dont fit and use context clues.

[~~CaTaNa~~]

Erich just got his ass pwned by Cuathon!!

[ChainHeart]

u ever used the dictionary on your computer? i think it comes with word, at least it does for me :)

[~~CaTaNa~~]

its too much hastle to do all that :P

im lazy XD

[EricH]

agreed, catana, which is why i'm trying to settle speech so that any decent advice Erich may have can be communicated.

Yes but, you haven't made a point. Or rather, the point regarding his age was well placed, but the other point you keep avoiding regarding my question isn't a point at all. It's an allusion to a point which you can't back, haven't made, and won't elaborate upon.
I've only reflected one point here, which is the point upon age relation.

[R G]

ok, Im in a little jam here. so I have this girlfriend and she's been my girl since about a year ago.. shes my friend and stuff but she said shes moving to organ soon..:

Which organ is she moving to...Heart...Lung...Kidney...Colon?

[Jeffery]

Well, she is getting away from the ass, so maybe she is going to the brain?

[HorNeT]

Which organ is she moving to?

I'm planning on visiting Left Ventricle, Heart this winter. I heard they have the best bloody marii.

[deleryn]

I can't find my girlfriend. :(

[HorNeT]

I took her to the left ventricle with me for the weekend.

[HorNeT]

Damnit, I was too late.

[deleryn]

I took her to the left ventricle with me for the weekend.

you dork

she doesn't exist. Have fun with some air/imagination.

I could totally rip your head off right now, btw

[RAGING INFERNO]

lol it still sucks

[RAGING INFERNO]

edit: lag

[boogieman]

Ldr's suck. The first and only one I was in (my first girlfriend... at age 16) broke up with me over another guy. Now I have a girlfriend right down the street... known her for over a year and we're happy together. So my advice is to stay friends with her, but to tell her that since she's moving on, that for now the relationship wouldn't work out. Maybe sometime down the road you two might get back together, who knows. But not to break up with bad feelings...

*checks ShadowHunter's age...*

Yeah, you have a long time. :)

[!Diamond!]

LoL this thread has gone crazy. Poor kid spells somethin wrong and you attack his mistake like vultures, love it.

[Cuathon]

lol like 4 people talked about that.

[Shadow Hunter]

what are you talking about?:confused:

[R G]

you dork

she doesn't exist. Have fun with some air/imagination.

I could totally rip your head off right now, btw

She could have moved to a organ too.

Have you checked your colon??

[LondonJack]

Ah young love, and already experimenting with organ play. You're well ahead of the curve, why at your age... well let's not get into what i was doing at your age :shocked:

Anyway, This relationship, the one your in now, It's important to you, probably seems like the world. I know that no matter who tells you this or how they tell you it, you're not likely to buy it, but here goes: This relationship is the beginning, not the end. There will be other girls.

The only good advice i have to give is don't listen to the advice of people that have been there. That advice isn't as valuable as it seems, b/c this situation isn't like long division or jumping off a 30 story building sans parachute, there's no one right answer, no one thing that works for everyone. If you both want to give the long distance thing a try go for it. If one or both of you don't want to try it then do your best to end on good terms, leave her with the memory of that first perfect boyfriend.

P.S. - Oh and check your spelling, that's important too, especially when seeking serious advice

[uniquinous]

my question would be (not that I think this guy is gonna return too much): How would your relationship change if you could no longer physically touch one another? Young relationships at that age tend to be, on AVERAGE, mostly in title. The physical isn't drastic, and communication is generally present but not dominating. So I ask, what is your relationship exactly, and how will the move affect it if phone contact is readily available?

[~~CaTaNa~~]

its not the same at that age to talk on the phone than it is to talk to someone one-on-one...i would have thought that you being someone who knows too much on relationships than she should would have realised that

the fact is when your girlfriend/boyfriend moves away that the end of the relationship...its too hard to keep it going and even if somehow you do manage to keep it going theres not much point because your not seeing enough of eachother

sorry but thats the harsh truth and reality