I need advice

[actgfin1234]

Wednesday night I made out with a girl, soon to realize she had a boyfriend, and I wasn't supposed to say anything. The guy I was with that night told everyone, and now she's mad at me because she thinks I told people. Her boyfriend broke up with her, and she's doing drugs and threatening to kill herself. I have no idea what to do. I don't know what to say. I just want to kill someone.

Any advice?

[uniquinous]

kill her. :p

Let's look at this: who was the stupid one here? Who caused this? What was the source of all these problems?

[theburning]

Give her a gun.

[actgfin1234]

Guys, I'm serious. I really care about her, and her drug problem. I had her completely off them for two weeks, and I thought she was making progress.

[uniquinous]

I'm sorry, let me elaborate a bit - I can not can not can not CAN NOT STAND when people cheat, and then flip out like it's someone else's fault. SHE caused this problem. YOU are innocent. INNOCENT. You did nothing wrong (according to your version of the story). She's stupid enough to take drugs just as she's stupid enough to cheat on her boyfriend. I'm just glad he left her and wasn't the kind of noob that sticks around!

And no, she's not gonna kill herself, she woulda done it already - right now she's lonely and looking for attention, and that's her outlet for it (and most likely it's working - I would bet she's gonna hookup again before sunday).

[actgfin1234]

I keep telling myself that it's her.. but it's so hard to blame it all on someone you care so much about.

I can't let go.

[Kreator]

Honestly, I think you should call the police. Get in her in rehab. Even if she hates you, would you rather her hate you, or her be alive?

[Higher Plane]

uni is kinda right here. you are totally blameless. not only did you not know not to tell but she was the one cheating on her boyfriend. maybe should think about things a little bit more? if she was gonna kill herself over the breakup, i doubt she woulda made out with you. she's seems kinda loopy to me.

[Daemon Bloodmaw]

Trust me, as a guy who put up with an otherwise wonderful girl's crap for a year before she went off the deep end and really started treating me like crap:

Ditch the *****! She's nothing but trouble and it sounds like you're too nice of a guy to waste your time on her.

I'm re-adjusting my radar to immediately BAIL when girls have issues or witchy tendencies. Not worth the trouble.

[actgfin1234]

I gotta work now, but I'd love to hear more people's opinions. Be back around 8 eastern.

[Hellblazer]

Well, it sounds like she went off the deep end. Honestly, I don't think you're pulling her out of the pool. You tried, I mean you did explain it wasn't you who told everyone, but do people see logic: no, of course not.
Hate to tell you there's not much to do now that she's started down the wrong path other than try and get her counseling.

[Ewok Lover]

HEY! What happened to S_K_O_F's post in this thread?

EDIT - Oh NM! I remember!

[Higher Plane]

lol

[Ewok Lover]

TB banned Skoffer before he could hit the submit button.

[Higher Plane]

dude i ahd to make a new thread cause she banned me just before i hit edit... and i had to get another account banned.

[Matt 34.5]

Shes a chick, whatever choice you make will be the wrong one. Why even think about it?

[Higher Plane]

the wisdom of matt :)

for even more fun examples, find megabyte's thread with the story about his girlfriend. its pretty funny. she goes crazy.

[†Nuke'em†]

Um, I got nothing to say, don't get in the "going out" kinda relationships unless you want to have some crazy situation on your hands, and loose a friend or two that you have had for a while. Take it from a man who has been there. Time heals all, talking helps a bunch.

EDIT: If you choose to take an active role NEVER NEVER lose your cool in any situation! That will really ruin anything.

[uniquinous]

OK so you deeply care about this girl... you sure nothing happened before you hooked up? and you sure you didn't know she had a bf?

As for your role - you can't do anything. People in those situations scarcely ever go for detox. She wants attention, and purposely doing stupid things to get it. Are you going to give it to her? The only thing you can do, is ask yourself if you will let that plan work.

[Higher Plane]

uni, let other people be smart for once! just because you have all the answers doesnt mean you should give them...

[uniquinous]

/me shuts up :(

[Higher Plane]

i beat uni! i win! bow to me!

[PSP Lover]

You may have won the battle, but you didn't win the war. ;)

[†Nuke'em†]

Awe, but we all love uni :) Higher plane you silly little um, um, I don't know. :bop:

[Higher Plane]

Im cua... could some random n00b hold every forum in his thrall?

[philrox]

O.o he owned uni, what do you expect, a celebration for beating a mod??

[PSP Lover]

Uni is awesome. I love his signiture. :wub:

[philrox]

lol...

[Higher Plane]

phil? im cua, dur.

cant you see a joke...

[philrox]

no apparently i can't, I'm sorry for noticing your joke that only you can see.

[Higher Plane]

nvm, i guess you cant.

[Hellblazer]

Wow, after uni shut up this thread turned into a total newb-fest. Get back on topic, you morons! This is one of Ach's threads!

[WindsOfTime]

uni ruined the topic :)
gave the answer, so of course the thread is, off tpoic :)

[actgfin1234]

Actually Ach is my brother. I'm Act. Thanks for the advise everyone. I actually just called her dad tonight and I'm going over tomorrow to talk to him. I think he really appreciates the fact that I'm helping her out; and hopefully she'll come to grips with that eventually...

[Daemon Bloodmaw]

Wait a minute, like blood brothers?

Didn't know Ach had a brother :confused:

Hope it goes well though Act. She'll probably resent you for a bit but someday she'll hopefully appreciate it.

[Office_Shredder]

No, they're actually thunder twins, born at the same stroke of lightning, their destinies inextricably fused in a dramatic and epic tale of death and betrayal.

[Serge]

No, they're actually thunder twins, born at the same stroke of lightning, their destinies inextricably fused in a dramatic and epic tale of death and betrayal.
And gay incest sex.

[actgfin1234]

who told you?

[Serge]

who told you?
Ach.

[actgfin1234]

That bastard. I'll have him bound and whipped tonight.;)

[Coffin Fedder]

Guys, I'm serious. I really care about her, and her drug problem. I had her completely off them for two weeks, and I thought she was making progress.

Sorry brah. There isin't really much you can do in a situation. Just give her a big ass hug and look her in the eyes and tell her how you feel about her. Comfort her and make sure she knows you mean it.

[Pinkie TDP]

It's not your responsibility to do a background check on her to make sure she isn't attached before you kiss the girl. If that were the case, the how to on making out would go something like this:

Step 1: Meet girl
Step 2: Find secluded place
Step 3: Access social security number, full name, and date of birth
Step 4: Research her life story
Step 5: If clean, proceed to kissing

She knew exactly what she was doing and it's not your fault if she was stupid about it. You're not housebreaking a puppy here, she's old enough to make her own decisions and if she can't stop doing drugs on her own, you or anyone else aren't going to stop her.

It's the people who say they're going to kill themselves that don't. It's the kids you read about in the newspaper who never said a word about it that do. Not saying you shouldn't take her seriously but just the fact that she says it doesn't mean much.

[Wizzy`]

It's the people who say they're going to kill themselves that don't. It's the kids you read about in the newspaper who never said a word about it that do. Not saying you shouldn't take her seriously but just the fact that she says it doesn't mean much.

Pinkie, i'm going to kill myself. But don't tell the newspapers I told you, k?

[Βrett]

Wednesday night I made out with a girl, soon to realize she had a boyfriend, and I wasn't supposed to say anything. The guy I was with that night told everyone, and now she's mad at me because she thinks I told people. Her boyfriend broke up with her, and she's doing drugs and threatening to kill herself. I have no idea what to do. I don't know what to say. I just want to kill someone.

Any advice?

Tell him he just wasn't good enough for her. :cool: Nah, thats sucks. Just break things down of what happend and appologize. Nice to see you post here again act.:rolleyes:

[uniquinous]

be careful about returning to her too much. Again, she's looking for attention, and possibly more hooking up. Ensure you don't give that to her, as it can only make things worse.